Our family isn't sure what to do for Mother's Day. Not exactly. My mother has tons of flowers in her little flower area: a dozen orchid plants, and others throughout the house. I can't bring myself to get bouquets of flowers. How is giving someone a bunch of dying flowers and having them die all week showing someone how you feel about them?
My mother says she doesn't care what we do and we'll "figure it out" this weekend. But that's not fair to us. We want to give my mother a nice weekend, and she should be a little receptive to ideas. We want to cook her a nice dinner, and have my sister and I take her to a Tea House in town for lunch on the weekend. I think that's a nice day. I'll be extra sure to keep the house extra clean- all month (not just the weekend) and do what I can to help out even more. I'm not sure what else to do or to give her. Mother's Day Gifts seem so cliche and not really thoughtful. Chocolate? Flowers? Giftcards? Cell phones? Is this really showing Mom we love her? I saw a commercial for Sears to buy Mom large appliances, Stoves, Dishwashers and Refrigerators..."Happy Mother's Day, Mom! Bake me cookies!" That's as bad as giving her a vacuum.
Cell phones are a bad gift for anyone unless it's for your own child. "Happy Birthday/Christmas/Valentine's /Mother's Day! Have a cellphone with a plan you have to pay for!"
Why do we have such pressure to buy gifts for anyone? Society pressures us to buy things to show love and affection. Why can't we show care for our Mothers by helping out more? Taking them to a place you know they'd like? We shouldn't have this guilt ridden need to buy, buy, buy. It's ingrained in us to buy things. We shouldn't stand for it and feel like we need to spend all this money on someone to prove something. And we feel like we have to, we don't want to disappoint the person we're giving to.
I'm a fairly low-maintenance person. I don't like flowers, I don't like diamonds. It doesn't take too much to make me happy. But I don't know if other people really are also. When my mother says (or any mother says) we don't have to do anything, we wonder if she really means it. Girls are peculiar like that. We infrequently say how we really feel or what we really want. "Oh, you don't have to do anything!" from a mother could mean "Well, I'd like flowers and not to cook." But they don't want to tell you that. They want us to figure it out, because they shouldn't have to tell us. I know how it is, I'm a girl too, I know how we do things. But it shouldn't be like that. Life would be so much easier and happier for us all if we just told people what we liked when they asked us: Don't say "I don't know what to have for dinner." When you really want steak. Don't say "Oh, rent any movie" when you really want to get the latest release.
We all need to speak up. I understand we don't want to impose or be a bother, but I think we'd all be a lot happier if we just expressed our needs. I know I'm very opinionated, and I tell it like it is, but I'm like that a lot too. We don't want to be imposing or make someone do something they may not want to do. But if we spoke up, especially all the mothers out there, we could save some stress and unhappiness to create a much better Mother's Day, and everyother day out there for everyone.